“Life is very interesting… in the end, some of your greatest pains become your greatest strengths.”
—Drew Barrymore
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In What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing From Complex Trauma, journalist and radio producer Stephanie Foo uses her investigative skills to tackle the most difficult subject of her career: her own body and mind. After years of functioning as a highly successful professional while secretly battling self-loathing and dread, Foo was diagnosed with Complex PTSD at age 30. Rather than hiding from the diagnosis and its implications, she approaches her childhood, which involved severe physical and emotional abuse by both her parents, with the rigour and candour she used at. her work for This American Life.
As a writer, I was struck by the way Foo structures her inquiries. She decides to “fact-checks” her past by returning to her hometown of San Jose to interview former teachers and classmates. Her investigations lead her to examine the dark side of the “model minority” myth within her Malaysian immigrant community. Rather than simply chronicling her own pain, she actively dissects the mechanics of trauma itself. She interviews neuroscientists and psychologists to understand the destructive loop of stimulus and response, outlining her understanding of the complex science. Although some of those professionals might take issue with her summarizations, they effectively bridge the gap between personal story and scientific information. (For those who are interested in digging deeper, Foo has a list of resources on her website.)
A large part of the narrative centres around Foo’s exploration of the ways trauma takes up residence in the physical body. She recognizes that her emotional scars have manifested physically, perhaps in the form of her endometriosis. She decides to take a break from her stressful career to try somatic practices like yin yoga, breathwork, and EMDR therapy.At the same time, she works to build a chosen family and learn to accept the love of her devoted partner Joey.
Tl; dr: this is a well-crafted memoir that bridges personal exploration and investigation. It’s worth your time.
